This book details a structured, research-based approach to working with the significant others of substance abusers. The approach, called `Unilateral Family Therapy', offers partners and family members hope not only of improving their own mental health, but also teaches how to restructure their relationship to the substance abuser in ways which could enhance the substance abuser's motivation to change and lead him or her to treatment.This book details a structured, research-based approach to working with the significant others of substance abusers. The approach, called `Unilateral Family Therapy', offers partners and family members hope not only of improving their own mental health, but also teaches how to restructure their relationship to the substance abuser in ways which could enhance the substance abuser's motivation to change and lead him or her to treatment.PART ONE: PRINCIPLES OF TWELVE-STEP FAMILY RECOVERY Introduction How It Works Al-Anon and Nar-Anon Facilitation and Family Recovery On Giving Advice Motivating the Substance Abuser To Change Recovery and the Process of Group Bonding Getting What You Wish For Family Issues in Early Recovery PART TWO: FACILITATING TWELVE-STEP FAMILY RECOVERY Program Overview Topic One Introduction and Assessment Topic Two Principles of Twelve-Step Fellowships Topic Three Al-Anon and Nar-Anon Topic Four Denial Topic Five Enabling Topic Six Acceptance Topic Seven Caring Detachment Topic Eight Surrender Topic Nine Termination