Ask Outrageously!: The Secret to Getting What You Really Want [Paperback]

Stop Holding Yourself Back—It’s Time to Go Ask!


The strongest relationships, top sales groups, and most successful organizations have one thing in common: people who have the courage to ask outrageously. This doesn’t mean being obnoxious or taking advantage of people. It means not compromising, taking a risk to get what you know you need, not what you think you can get.

Based on Linda Swindling’s original research and her experience helping people make high-stakes requests in everything from business negotiations to marriage proposals, this book offers proven approaches to improve your asking and boost your chances of success. Whether you are a professional looking for a bigger opportunity, an entrepreneur striving to build a company, a nonprofit seeking funding, or simply a parent or friend wanting a more fulfilling relationship, it’s time to make that big ask! Get ready. Your results will surpass your greatest expectations!Introduction: Ask Outrageously! 1

How to Get Outrageous Results from This Book 11
Define “Outrageous”
No Difficulties Asking? Why You Still Need This Book

Assessment: How Well Do You Ask? 18

1 Proof You Should Ask Outrageously 19
What’s Difficult about Asking
Top Ten Reasons to Ask Outrageously

2 Show Up Powerfully 31
Identify Your Strengths Strategies to Convey Confidence

3 The Right Focus 45
Why You Need to Get Over Yourself Prepare to Ask Boldly

4 What’s in It for Them? 53
Easy Asks
The Importance of Timing

5 Trust and Respect 71
Manners Matter
“What” and “How” Questions

6 Ask Everywhere—All the Time 93
Talk to Strangers
Raises and Promotions

7 Blocks 113
The ASK Strategy How to Banish Blocks

8 Asking for Others 127
Self-Interest versus Selfishness Wintegrity

9 Authority 139
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