If..., Volume 3: (Questions for the Game of Love) [Hardcover]

Suggests discussion questions on sex, love, and relationships, all phrased in the form, If you could, or had to, or were something, what would you do, or say, or choose? Evelyn McFarlane was born in Brooklyn and grew up in San Diego. She received a degree in architecture from Cornell University and has worked in New York and Boston as an architect. She now lives in Florence, Italy. In addition to writing, she lectures on architecture for the Elderhostel programs and paints.

James Saywellwas born in Canada and lived in Asia as a child. Besides questions, he designs buildings and furniture. He divides his time between the United States, Italy, and Hong Kong.If3. . .
 
Love. Romance. Sex.
 
From the imaginative lover to the imaginary one, our imaginations play central role in our love lives. Pity the person who believes there exists no connection between the heart and the imagination, or pity their lover, anyway. From the first time we begin to discover there’s a thing called love—tumultuous, chaotic, confusing, frightfully powerful, and stunningly joyous—we begin to imagine what might be if ...
 
And as long as we are able to love (in other words, as long as we are alive), our imaginations help us through it, fill in the gaps, make us hopeful, steel our nerves, augment our romantic ideas, protect our humility, guide our actions, and help keep things interesting. Would we dare enter into love otherwise?
 
Yet as wonderful and wrenching as romantic love can be, it remains startlingly incomprehensible, and the mysteries of our own hearts tantalize us. Can we know more? Are we meant to? Ask yourself some of these questions, and ask those you love, or would like to. Where will they take you? What will they reveal? Do you have the courage to answer? Be prepared for anything.
 
And always, always, treasure the game of love.
 
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