The Third Side: Why We Fight and How We Can Stop [Paperback]

According toWilliam Ury, it takes two sides to fight, but a third to stop. Distilling the lessons of two decades of experience in family struggles, labor strikes, and wars, he presents a bold new strategy for stopping fights. He also describes ten practical roles--as managers, teachers, parents, and citizens--that each of us can play every day to prevent destructive conflict. Fighting isn't an inevitable part of human nature, Ury explains, drawing on his training as an anthropologist and his work among primitive tribes and modern corporations. We have a powerful alternative--The Third Side--which can transform our daily battles into creative conflict and cooperation at home, at work, and in the world.Author's Note
Acknowledgments
Introduction: Are We Doomed to Fight?
I. What's the Alternative?
1. The Third Side
II. But Isn't Fighting Human Nature?
2. The First 99% of Human History
3. The Last 1%
4. The Recurrence
III. How Can We Stop?
5. Prevent: Provider, Teacher, Bridge-Builder
6. Resolve: Mediator, Arbiter, Equalizer, Healer
7. Contain: Witness, Referee, Peacekeeper
Conclusion: It's Our Choice
Next Steps
A Road Map toThe Third Side
End Notes
IndexWilliam Uryis the co-founder of Harvard's Program on Negotiation, where he directs the Project on Preventing War. One of the world's leading negotiation specialists, his past clients include dozens of Fortune 500 companies as well as the White House and Pentagon. Ury received his B.A. from Yale and a Ph.D. in Anthropology from Harvard. His booksGetting to YesandGetting Past Nohave sold more than five million copies worldwide.US